Accounting for You Looking Forward

Accounting for You Looking Forward

80% of The Time We’re Going Through The Day Reactively…


I was explaining to my wife this morning how I was being reactive to my life, my business and my days. The thing that was happening is that my emotions were taking over and I was not controlling what my mind was focusing on. I told her this was drastically hindering my success and I was focusing on the things that could go wrong rather than what is right, going right and what is positive that is going to happen.


A couple years ago I was sitting down with a coach I was working with. His strategy is to bring you in for 2 days. The first day they run you through a planning process for your business and your life. They also start finding things that are holding you back. On the second day you lay our your plan of action and they break you through the things that are holding you back.


One of the biggest things he said that resonates is that 80 – 90% of the time we’re operating unconsciously. What I take that to mean is that we’re running the same strategies and patterns without thinking. A basic premise in behavioral psychology is Pavlov’s dog.


Pavlov’s Dog


Ring a tuning fork and show a dog a steak. Do this repeatedly, then you ring the fork, don’t display the steak and the dog is salivating.


What does this mean?


We’re all going through our day in a stimulus response way. Just as the dog hears the fork and starts salivating, we to go through the day taking in some form of stimuli through our senses and we have some sort action.


We see this play out in our lives and businesses by running the same patterns over and over and having the same outcomes.


How do you become more proactive rather than reactive?


Take control of your day. There is a lot of stuff that is thrown at us each and every day and it becomes easy to be reactive rather than proactive. Our emotions take over. This shows up in all areas of our life. It shows up in our relationships. We become reactive to the situations and we wonder why are relationships aren’t better. We do this in our health. We say we’re going to eat healthy. We may even start the day off great, but 10 AM hits or lunch hits and our emotions and reactive mind take over and the next thing you know you’re eating crap.


How do you break the cycle?


You have to plan out what you want to have happen.


Plan out time with your family.


Plan your eating and what you’re going to eat.


Simply put…Plan out your day! Plan everything.


The reason you need to plan everything is because you need to start becoming…




Accountable to who?




When you start planning your days and your weeks you start becoming Accountable.

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Western Medicine and Businesses Have The Placebo Effect All Wrong…

Western Medicine and Businesses Have The Placebo Effect All Wrong…

I had an interesting conversation with a friend about the placebo effect. He was watching Andrew Weil on a Podcast and the question was posed what if we could tap into the placebo effect everyone could heal themselves. This obviously goes against everything we’ve been taught in Western Society since we were born and at least since modern medicine was cooked up in the early 1900s.


None the less what if we could tap into the placebo effect? What would that mean to our health? What would that mean to our success in life and business?


What is the placebo effect?


The placebo effect is a positive increase in one’s health not due to any medicine, pill or medical treatment, but because of one’s own beliefs that the treatment will heal them.


So what that says if you can just change your beliefs you can change your illness? Change your success? Change your outcome?


What is a belief?


Something one accepts as true or real; a firmly held opinion or conviction.


So the placebo effect states your belief in a sugar pill or a process you can have success and cure your illness? What if it is your actually beliefs that are making you sick?


Beliefs about what?


Well we operate that there is no failure only feedback. So when you think of your body getting sick you can think of it as feedback that you’re doing something that needs to change. Our bodies are feedback mechanisms. If you’re sick or have a disease in order for the placebo effect to work or for you to heal yourself you have to think about what belief do I need to change? You’re holding some belief about your life that is making you sick or have a disease. Your beliefs can be about life in general or can be a byproduct of your environment.


In essence we hold beliefs on how life should be and we have things in our environment that are putting us under stress that are causing illness. At the end of this article I have included Symptoms/Diseases and the beliefs that cause them.


Were do beliefs come from?


Beliefs are generally formed in two ways: by our experiences, inferences and deductions, or by accepting what others tell us to be true. Most of our core beliefs are formed when we are children. When we are born, we enter this world with a clean slate and without preconceived beliefs.


I think there are a few places beliefs come from…


Genealogical – They are passed down from one generation to the next generation. We believe the same things as our parents, our grandparents and those before them.


Society – We are inundated with messages and propaganda each and every day from teachers, friends, news, social media, etc.


Gestalt – The majority of our beliefs are well formed before we’re 7. Everything that comes after that age continues to enforce that belief.


Take a look at this diagram…


You have an event that is significant and it forms a belief about yourself, other people or how the world works. We then have subsequent events that continue to enforce that belief.

20, 30, 40 years goes by of you holding on to the burden of that negative belief and it manifests itself as a sickness or illness.

To change your outcomes, illness or disease the premise of the placebo effect is that you have either…


#1 – Believe in something that will heal you.


#2 – Change the belief you have that is making you sick or have dis-ease.


We have 70,000 thoughts a day and the 90% plus of them are the same day in day out. We wonder why we continuously have the same results. Or this may be easier to accept, do you know someone who goes from relationship to relationship or job to job and it seems like a soap opera? Every job turns out the same and every relationship ends the same for that person?




So what do you do to change a belief. Well ever thought we have and most conversations we have with our support network – our friends, family, etc are very deductive in nature. What I mean is that they are more enabling rather than inductive with new thoughts and new ideas.


Think about it this way…


Most of our thoughts and conversations are mirror images of how we think and act. Most are mirror images of our beliefs. What if you could see the non-mirror image of your thoughts and beliefs? What if you could see the inverse of your beliefs? What if you could see the non-mirror inverse image of your beliefs?


Sound complicated?


What if you could take on a new belief?


Sounds hard right?


It’s like watching someone quit smoking. It’s almost an impossible task. The habit of smoking is so ingrained in the unconscious mind that it’s near impossible to change.


How do you tap into the unconscious and change your beliefs?


1st you have to discover the root cause of the belief that is causing your illness or putting you on a disease. Like I said these beliefs are typically passed on genealogically or by a decision we made before we were 7. Now you’re asking why would I have made such a decision to have a belief that would make me ill or dis-eased? You made the belief because you want to protect yourself from some hurt or some loss, but those beliefs either don’t serve you now or are not needed anymore.


There are some modalities that help you tap into your unconscious mind where your beliefs are stored to help you change those beliefs and get rid of those beliefs that aren’t serving you.


There are 3 ways that I have experienced belief change for myself…


#1 – Naturally – I have gotten sick and tired of what a belief was doing to my life. Meaning it was causing more pain than it was protecting me from and my body decided to make the shift.


#2 – Meditation – Meditation helps you dig deep into your unconscious and affect change. There is a gentleman by the name of Dr. Joe Dispenza who has many books, but one called the Placebo is You where he discusses the effects of changing your beliefs through meditation. He also has events where people go to learn the tricks about changing your beliefs and healing yourself. He has a remarkable story on how he healed himself.


#3 – Hypnosis – the induction of a state of consciousness in which a person is highly responsive to suggestion or direction. Its used to allow modification of beliefs and behaviors by suggestion.


#4 – Timeline Therapy™ – Process by which people can release negative emotions, modify beliefs and create new behaviors and behavioral choices.


The whole premise here is how do you tap into the Placebo Effect? You need to tap into your belief system. When you change your beliefs, you can change your outcomes. You can have more success. We all have an internal thermostat of what is possible.


Think about a thermostat at your house. Let’s say you have it set at 70. That thermostat setting will keep your house at 70. If it gets too cold in your house because you left a door open or window open what is going to happen? It’s going to tell you your furnace to start blowing some warm air to get the temperature back up to 70. What if it starts to get a little warm in the house? The thermostat is going to tell your air conditioning to kick on to make it a little cooler and get the temperature back to 70.


That is exactly how our internal thermostat works. Our internal thermostat is driven by our beliefs. You want more success, money, better health etc? You need to change what your internal thermostat is set at. You want to change your internal set point? You need to change your beliefs. High achievers are always looking to change that internal thermostat and different results.


Life boils down to this, if you want to cure yourself, have better health, make more money, have better relationships, etc. you need to change your beliefs.


Symptoms list:

A Abdominal Cramps: Fear. Stopping the process. Abscess: Fermenting thoughts over hurts, slights and revenge. Accidents: Inability to speak up for the self. Rebellion against authority. Belief in violence. Aches: Longing for love. Longing to be held. Acne: Not accepting the self. Dislike of the self. Addictions: Running from the self. Fear. Not knowing how to love self. Adrenal Problems: Defeatism. No longer caring for the self. Anxiety. Alcoholism: Feeling of futility, guilt, inadequacy. Self-rejection. Allergies: Denying your own power. Alzheimer’s Disease: Refusal to deal with the world as it is. Hopelessness and helplessness. Anger. Amenorrhea: Not wanting to be a woman. Dislike of the self. Anemia: “Yes-but” attitude. Lack of joy. Fear of life. Not feeling good enough. Ankle: Inflexibility and guilt. Ankles represent the ability to receive pleasure. Anorexia: Denying the self life. Extreme fear, self-hatred and rejection. Anxiety: Not trusting the flow and the process of life. Apathy: Resistance to feeling. Deadening of the self. Fear. Appetite, Excessive: Fear. Needing protection. Judging the emotions. Arm: Represents the capacity and ability to hold the experiences of life. Arteries: Carry the joy of life. Arthritic Fingers: A desire to punish. Blame. Feeling victimized. Arthritis: Feeling unloved. Criticism, resentment. – Rheumatoid Arthritis: Feeling victimized. Lack of love. Chronic bitterness. Resentment. Deep criticism of authority. Feeling very put upon. Asthma: Smother love. Inability to breathe for one’s self. Feeling stifled. Suppressed crying. Athlete’s Foot: Frustration at not being accepted. Inability to move forward with ease. B Back Issues: Represents the support of life. Back Problems: – Rounded shoulders: Carrying the burdens of life. Helpless and hopeless. – Lower Back Pain: Fear of money or lack of financial support. – Mid-Back Pain: Guilt. Stuck in all that stuff back there. “Get off my back!” – Upper Back Pain: Lack of emotional support. Feeling unloved. Holding back love. – Back Curvature: The inability to flow with the support of life. Fear and trying to hold on to old ideas. Not trusting life. Lack of integrity. No courage of convictions. Bad Breath: Anger and revenge thoughts. Experiences backing up. Balance, Loss of: Scattered thinking. Not centered. Baldness: Fear. Tension. Trying to control everything. Bedwetting: Fear of parent, usually the father. Belching: Fear. Gulping life too quickly. Bell’s Palsy: Extreme control over anger. Unwillingness to express feelings. Bladder Problems: Anxiety. Holding on to old ideas. Fear of letting go. Being “pissed off”. Bleeding: Joy running out. Anger. Blisters: Resistance. Lack of emotional protection. Blood Pressure: – High: Longstanding emotional problem not solved. – Low: Lack of love as a child. Defeatism. Body Odor: Fear. Dislike of the self. Fear of others. Bones: Represent the structure of the universe. – Bone marrow: Represents deepest beliefs about the self. How you support and care for yourself. – Breaks: Rebelling against authority. Brain: Represents the computer, the switchboard. – Tumor: Incorrect computerized beliefs. Stubborn. Refusing to change old patterns. Breast: Represents mothering and nurturing and nourishment. – Cysts, Lumps: A refusal to nourish the self. Putting everyone else first. Over mothering. Overprotection. Overbearing attitudes. Breath: Represents the ability to take in life. – Breathing Problems: Fear. Not trusting the process of life. Getting stuck in childhood. Fear of taking in life fully. – Bronchitis: Inflamed family environment. Arguments and yelling. Bruises: The little bumps in life. Self-punishment. Bulimia: Hopeless terror. A frantic stuffing and purging of self-hatred. Burns: Anger. Burning up. Incensed. Bursitis: Repressed anger. Wanting to hit someone.

C Calluses: Hardened concepts and ideas. Fear solidified. Cancer: Deep hurt. Longstanding resentment. Deep secret or grief eating away at the self. Carrying hatreds. Candida: Feeling very scattered. Lots of frustration and anger. Demanding and untrusting in relationships. Great takers. Canker Sores: Festering words held back by the lips. Blame. Carpal Tunnel Syndrome: Anger and frustration at life’s seeming injustices. Cataracts: Inability to see ahead with joy. Dark future. Cellulite: Stored anger and self-punishment. Cerebral Palsy: A need to unite the family in an action of love. Chills: Mental contraction, pulling away and in. Desire to retreat. Cholesterol: Clogging the channels of joy. Fear of accepting joy. Circulation: Represents the ability to feel and express the emotions in positive ways. Colds: Too much going on at once. Mental confusion, disorder. Small hurts. Colic: Mental irritation, impatience, annoyance in the surroundings. Colitis: Insecurity. Represents the ease of letting go of that which is over. Coma: Fear. Escaping something or someone. Conjunctivitis: Anger and frustration at what you are looking at in life. Constipation: Incomplete releasing. Holding on to garbage of the past. Guilt over the past. Sometimes stinginess. Corns: Hardened areas of thought – stubborn holding on to the pain of the past. Coughs: A desire to bark at the world. “Listen to me!” Cramps: Tension. Fear. Gripping, holding on. Crohn’s Disease: Fear. Worry. Not feeling good enough. Crying: Tears are the river of life, shed in joy as well as in sadness and fear. Cuts: Punishment for not following your own rules. Cysts: Running the old painful movie. Nursing hurts. A false growth. Cystic Fibrosis: A thick belief that life won’t work for you. “Poor me.” D Deafness: Rejection, stubbornness, isolation. What don’t you want to hear? “Don’t bother me.” Depression: Anger you feel you do not have a right to have. Hopelessness. Diabetes: Longing for what might have been. A great need to control. Deep sorrow. No sweetness left. Diarrhea: Fear. Rejection. Running off. Dizziness: Flighty, scattered thinking. A refusal to look. Dry eyes: Angry eyes. Refusing to see with love. Would rather die than forgive. Being spiteful. Dysmenorrhea: Anger at the self. Hatred of the body or of women. E Ear: Represents the capacity to hear. – Ache: Anger. Not wanting to hear. Too much turmoil. Household arguing. Eczema: Breath-taking antagonism. Mental eruptions. Edema: What or who won’t you let go of? Elbow: Represents changing directions and accepting new experiences. Emphysema: Fear of taking in life. Not worthy of living. Endometriosis: Insecurity, disappointment and frustration. Replacing self-love with sugar. Blamers. Epilepsy: Sense of persecution. Rejection of life. A feeling of great struggle. Self-violence. Epstein-Barr Virus: Pushing beyond one’s limits. Fear of not being good enough. Draining all inner support. Stress. Eye: Represents the capacity to see clearly past, present, future. – Astigmatism: “I” trouble. Fear of really seeing the self. – Hyperopia: Fear of the present. – Myopia: Fear of the future. F Face: Represents what we show the world. Fainting: Fear. Can’t cope. Blacking out. Fat or Weight issues: Oversensitivity. Often represents fear and shows a need for protection. Fear may be a cover for hidden anger and a resistance to forgive. Running away from feelings. Insecurity, self-rejection and seeking fulfillment. – Arms: Anger at being denied love. – Belly: Anger at being denied nourishment. – Hips: Lumps of stubborn anger at the parents. – Thighs: Packed childhood anger. Often rage at the father. Fatigue: Resistance, boredom. Lack of love for what one does. Feet: Represent our understanding – of ourselves, of life, of others. – Foot Problems: Fear of the future and of not stepping forward in life. Fever: Anger. Burning up. Fibroid Tumors: Nursing a hurt from a partner. A blow to the feminine ego. Fingers: Represent the details of life. – Thumb: Represents intellect and worry. – Index: Represents ego and fear. – Middle: Represents anger and sexuality. – Ring: Represents unions and grief. – Little: Represents the family and pretending. Food Poisoning: Allowing others to take control. Feeling defenseless. Frigidity: Fear. Denial of pleasure. A belief that sex is bad. Insensitive partners. Fear of father. Fungus: Stagnating beliefs. Refusing to release the past. Letting the past rule today.

G Gallstones: Bitterness. Hard thoughts. Condemning. Pride. Gas: Gripping. Fear. Undigested ideas. Gastritis: Prolonged uncertainty. A feeling of doom. Genitals: Represent the masculine and feminine principles. Worry about not being good enough. Gland Problems: Represent holding stations. Self-staring activity. Holding yourself back. Gout: The need to dominate. Impatience, anger. Glaucoma: Stony unforgiveness. Pressure from longstanding hurts. Overwhelmed by it all. Gray Hair: Stress. A belief in pressure and strain. Growths: Nursing those old hurts. Building resentments. Gum Problems: Inability to back up decisions. Indecisive about life. H Hands: Hold and handle. Clutch and grip. Grasping and letting go. Caressing. Pinching. All ways of dealing with experiences. Hay Fever: Emotional congestion. Fear of the calendar. A belief in persecution. Guilt. Headaches: Invalidating the self. Self-criticism. Fear. Heart: Represents the center of love and security. – Heart Attack: Squeezing all the joy out of the heart in favor of money or position. Feeling alone and scared. “I’m not good enough. I don’t do enough. I’ll never make it.” – Heart Problems: Longstanding emotional problems. Lack of joy. Hardening of the heart. Belief in strain and stress. Heartburn: Fear. Fear. Fear. Clutching Fear. Hemorrhoids: Fear of deadlines. Anger of the past. Afraid to let go. Feeling burdened. Hepatitis: Resistance to change. Fear, anger, hatred. Liver is the seat of anger and rage. Hernia: Ruptured relationships. Strain, burdens, incorrect creative expression. Herpes Genitalis: Mass belief in sexual guilt and the need for punishment. Public shame. Belief in a punishing God. Rejection of the genitals. Herpes Simplex: Bitter words left unspoken. Hip: Carries the body in perfect balance. Major thrust in moving forward. Fear of going forward in major decisions. Nothing to move forward to. Hives: Small, hidden fears. Mountains out of molehills. Hodgkin’s Disease: Blame and a tremendous fear of not being good enough. A frantic race to prove one’s self until the blood has no substance left to support itself. The joy of life is forgotten in the race of acceptance. Hyperactivity: Fear. Feeling pressured and frantic. Hyperventilation: Fear. Resisting change. Not trusting the process. Hypoglycemia: Overwhelmed by the burdens in life.

I Impotence: Sexual pressure, tension, guilt. Social beliefs. Spite against a previous mate. Fear of mother. Incontinence: Emotional overflow. Years of controlling emotions. Indigestion: Gut-level fear, dread, anxiety. Griping and grunting. Infection: Irritation, anger, annoyance. Inflammation: Fear. Seeing red. Inflamed thinking. Anger and frustration about conditions you are looking at in your life. Influenza: Response to mass negativity and beliefs. Fear. Belief in statistics. Ingrown Toenail: Worry and guilt about your right to move forward. Injuries: Anger at the self. Feeling guilty. Insanity: Fleeing from the family. Escapism, withdrawal. Violent separation from life. Insomnia: Fear. Not trusting the process of life. Guilt. Intestines: Represent assimilation and absorption. Itching: Desires that go against the grain. Unsatisfied. Remorse. Itching to get out or get away.

J Jaundice: Internal and external prejudice. Unbalanced reason. Jaw Problems: Anger. Resentment. Desire for revenge. K Kidney Problems: Criticism, disappointment, failure. Shame. Reacting like a child. Kidney Stones: Lumps of undissolved anger. Knee: Represents pride and ego. Stubborn ego and pride. Inability to bend. Fear. Inflexibility. Won’t give in. L Laryngitis: So mad you can’t speak. Fear of speaking up. Resentment of authority. Left Side of Body: Represents receptivity, taking in, feminine energy, women, the mother. Leg: Carry us forward in life. Liver: Seat of anger and primitive emotions. Chronic complaining. Justifying fault-finding to deceive yourself. Feeling bad. Lockjaw: Anger. A desire to control. A refusal to express feelings. Lump in the Throat: Fear. Not trusting the process of life. Lung: The ability to take in life. Depression. Grief. Not feeling worthy of living life fully. Lupus: A giving up. Better to die than stand up for one’s self. Anger and punishment. Lymph Problems: A warning that the mind needs to be recentered on the essentials of life. Love and joy. M Malaria: Out of balance with nature and with life. Menopause Problems: Fear of no longer being wanted. Fear of aging. Self-rejection. Not feeling good enough. Menstrual Problems: Rejection of one’s femininity. Guilt, fear. Belief that the genitals are sinful or dirty. Migraine Headaches: Dislike of being driven. Resisting the flow of life. Sexual fears. Miscarriage: Fear of the future. Inappropriate timing. Mononucleosis: Anger at not receiving love and appreciation. No longer caring for the self. Motion Sickness: Fear. Bondage. Feeling of being trapped. Mouth: Represents taking in of new ideas and nourishment. Set opinions. Closed mind. Incapacity to take in new ideas. Multiple Sclerosis: Mental hardness, hard-heartedness, iron will, inflexibility. Muscles: Resistance to new experiences. Muscles represent our ability to move in life. Muscular Dystrophy: “It’s not worth growing up.” N Nails: Represent protection. – Nail Biting: Frustration. Eating away at the self. Spite of a parent. Narcolepsy: Can’t cope. Extreme fear. Wanting to get away from it all. Not wanting to be here. Nausea: Fear. Rejecting an idea or experience. Neck: Represents flexibility. The ability to see what’s back there. Refusing to see other sides of a question. Stubbornness, inflexibility. Unbending stubbornness. Nephritis: Overreaction to disappointment and failure. Nerves: Represent communication. Receptive reporters. Nervous Breakdown: Self-centeredness. Jamming the channels of communication. Nervousness: Fear, anxiety, struggle, rushing. Not trusting the process of life. Neuralgia: Punishment for guilt. Anguish over communication. Nodules: Resentment and frustration and hurt ego over career. Nose: Represents self-recognition. – Nose Bleeds:A need for recobnition. Feeling unnoticed. Crying for love. – Runny Nose: Asking for help. Inner crying. – Stuffy Nose: Not recognizing the self-worth. Numbness: Withholding love and consideration. Going dead mentally.

O Osteomyelitis: Anger and frustration at the very structure of life. Feeling unsupported. Osteoporosis: Feeling there is no support left in life. Mental pressures and tightness. Muscles can’t stretch. Loss of mental mobility. Ovaries: Represent points of creation. Creativity. PQ Pain: Guilt. Guilt always seeks punishment. Paralysis: Paralysing thoughts. Getting stuck. Terror leading to escape from a situation or person. Pancreas: Represents the sweetness of life. Pancreatitis: Rejection. Anger and frustration because life seems to have lost its sweetness. Parasites: Giving power to others, letting them take over and life off of you. Parkinson’s Disease: Fear and an intense desire to control everything and everyone. Peptic Ulcer: Fear. A belief that you are not good enough. Anxious to please. Phlebitis: Anger and frustration. Blaming others for the limitation and lack of joy in life. Pimples: Small outbursts of anger. Pituitary Gland: Represents the control center. Pneumonia: Desperate. Tired of life. Emotional wounds that are not allowed to heal. Poison Ivy: Allergy Feeling defenseless and open to attack. Polio: Paralysing jealousy. A desire to stop someone. Premenstrual Syndrome: Allowing confusion to reign. Giving power to outside influences. Rejection of the feminine processes. Prostate: Represents the masculine principle. Mental fears weaken the masculinity. Giving up. Sexual pressure and guilt. Belief in aging. Psoriasis: Fear of being hurt. Deadening the senses of the self. Refusing to accept responsibility for our own feelings. R Rash: Irritation over delays. Immature way to get attention. Right Side of Body: Giving out, letting go, masculine energy, men, the father. Ringworm: Allowing others to get under your skin. Not feeling good enough or clean enough.

S Scabies: Infected thinking. Allowing others to get under your skin. Sciatica: Being hypocritical. Fear of money and of the future. Scleroderma: Protecting the self from life. Not trusting yourself to be there and to take care of yourself. Scratches: Feeling life tears at you, that life is a rip off. Senility: Returning to the so-called safety of childhood. Demanding care and attention. A form of control of those around you. Escapism. Shin: Represents the standards of life. Breaking down ideals. Shingles: Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Fear and tension. Too sensitive. Sinus Problems: Irritation to one person, someone close. Skin: Protects our individuality. Anxiety, fear. Old, buried things. I am being threatened. Slipped Disc: Feeling totally unsupported by life. Indecisive. Snoring: Stubborn refusal to let go of old patterns. Solar Plexus: Gut reactions. Center of our intuitive power. Sores: Unexpressed anger that settles in. Spleen: Obsessions. Being obsessed about things. Sprains: Anger and resistance. Not wanting to move in a certain direction in life. Sterility: Fear and resistance to the process of life or not needing to go through the parenting experience. Stiffness: Rigid, stiff thinking. Stomach: Holds nourishment. Digests ideas. Dread. Fear of the new. Inability to assimilate the new. Stroke: Giving up. Resistance. Rather die than change. Rejection of life.

Stuttering: Insecurity. Lack of self-expression. Not being allowed to cry. Sty: Looking at life through angry eyes. Angry at someone. Suicidal thoughts: See life only in black and white. Refusal to see another way out.

T Teeth: Represent decisions. – Teeth Problems: Longstanding indecisiveness. Inability to break down ideas for analysis and decisions. – Root Canal: Can’t bite into anything anymore. Root beliefs being destroyed. – Impacted Wisdom Teeth: Not giving yourself mental space to create a firm foundation. Throat: Avenue of expression. Channel of creativity. – Throat Problems: The inability to speak up for one’s self. Swallowed anger. Stifled creativity. Refusal to change. – Sore throat: Holding in angry words. Feeling unable to express the self. Thrush: Anger over making the wrong decisions. Thymus Gland: Feeling attacked by life. They are out to get me. Thyroid Gland: Humiliation. I never get to do what I want to do. When is it going to be my turn. – Hyperthyroid: Rage at being left out. Tics, Twitches: Fear. A feeling of being watched by others. Tinnitus or Ringing in the Ears: Refusal to listen. Not hearing the inner voice. Stubbornness. Toes: Represent the minor details of the future. Tongue: Represents the ability to taste the pleasures of life with joy. Tonsillitis: Fear. Repressed emotions. Stifled creativity. Tuberculosis: Wasting away from selfishness. Possessive. Cruel thoughts. Revenge.

U Urinary infections: Pissed off, usually at the opposite sex or a lover. Blaming others. Uterus: Represents the home of creativity. V Vaginitis: Anger at a mate. Sexual guilt. Punishing the self. Varicose Veins: Standing in a situation you hate. Discouragement. Feeling over-worked and overburdened. Vitiligo: Feeling completely outside of things. Not belonging. Not one of the group. Vomiting: Violent rejection of ideas. Fear of the new. WXYZ Warts: Little expressions of hate. Belief in ugliness. – Plantar Warts: Anger at the very basis of your understanding. Spreading frustration about the future. Wrist: Represents movement and ease.

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Over the weekend my wife and I took my kids to the Children’s Museum in Chicago. As always my kids were maniacs and running from one thing to the next. In the middle of the place they have this 2 story rope climb / tree house climb. My boys always want to do it, but…


They want Daddy to help them do it. The problem is they are getting too big for me and them to be in the contraption. So I was pushing them to do it by themselves. What happened next infuriated me, but I stayed calm.


My 2 and 4-year-old kept saying, “I can’t!” or “I want mommy!”


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This is called a Scatoma – a partial loss of vision or blind spot in an otherwise normal visual field.


I think we can all recollect a time where this has happened to us. But, why does this happen to us?


A good way to explain this is when you’re sitting at your computer and your looking for something on a website or a document and you can’t find it. I often hear people and do it my self where they are saying derogatory things at their computer as if it is the computers fault.




I have had people who believe they are bad at directions have fear overcome them when you tell them they have to go somewhere new by themselves to do something important.

These events produce a Scotoma because what is going on in our head. Your problem is your…




When information comes in we either …






We generalize based on our passed experience.


We delete information because we have negative self-talk.


We distort the situation because of the state we’re in.


My boys were generalizing this new thing as difficult. They had negative self-talk and were deleting the possibilities of where to place their hands and feet. The were distorting the situation because they were in a fearful state. Thus, all they say were problems instead of possibilities.


The way to have success is control your focus. You can control your focus by quieting down the self-talk and putting yourself in a state that is fitting for the circumstance.


There is one state I use to help me solve problems. That state is the…


No Nothing State


I derived this from Neuro Linguistic Programming. In NLP they call this the learning state. During the learning state you completely clear your mind of everything and let your mind go to work and solve the problem. You need to clear all the chatter out and take control of your state. The best way is to go to the No Nothing State or Learning State. This takes some practice and some utilization to master.


I encourage you to go to YouTube and look up the process to learn the Learning State. This is one key and strategy to becoming a great problem solver. Once you clear your mind possibilities and solutions appear.


How important is this?


The big question is where do you have Scotomas in your business, relationships, health, etc.?

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It’s Not Trump’s Fault

It’s Not Trump’s Fault

I recently heard one of my mentors, Adriana James say something to the effect if you’re not making mistakes then you’re not making decisions. This is extremely true. The reason most of us go from box of a house to our box of our car to our box of a cubicle to work is because we’re afraid to make mistakes. They’re afraid that if they try they are going to make the wrong decisions, make mistakes and it will be costly.


Frequently when I’m at a business event or listen to people talk you can hear the limitations in their voice. Most people are afraid to try. Most people are afraid to make decision because they don’t want to make a mistake.


The reason I choose to work B to B rather than B to C is this exact idea. I find when we work B to C that non-entrepreneurs have a tough time making decisions or decisions take a lot long for them.




They’re afraid of making decisions because they are afraid of making mistakes.


I don’t know how much Donald Trump is worth and it really doesn’t matter because it’s about cash flow. These guys who have mastered and use debt financing to their advantage understand it’s not about some top line number that you can see in Forbes, but it’s about the cash flow you can create. Now debt works in cycles so you can get caught in those cycles. Donald Trump does have an ego and likes to see his name at the top of the Forbes list, but let’s not let his ego cloud the ideas here. 😊


The one thing naysayers want to bring up about Donald Trump is that he went bankrupt, which is true, but the one thing is if you’re going to stick your neck out and make decisions you’re going to make mistakes. I imagine Donald Trump has done over 1,000 business deals. When you do a 1,000 business deals I can say one thing for sure, some are going to fail. But, you can’t argue the guy lives a fairly fantastic life. He get’s driven around in a limo, flies private and has an estate he spends his weekends at in Florida.


One of my mentors who is credited for truing $850 into over $300 Million once told of a story where he was being sued and they froze all of his bank accounts and credit cards.


The lesson here is if you want life an extraordinary life or accomplish great things you need to take a lot of action. With that action come a lot of decisions. With those decisions comes some mistakes. But, your odds don’t even have to be as good as a hall of fame baseball player to be a hall of fame businessperson.


A hall of fame baseball player has to be right 3 time out of every 10. A hall of fame business person or for you to accomplish your wildest dreams only has to be right once. You literally only have to be right once. Once out of how many times? As many times as you can peal yourself off the ground and try again.


Don’t be afraid of making decisions. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes. The more decisions you make the better you will get at them. The more experience you have in making decisions the better decisions you will make. The hard part is experience usually comes from bad decisions.


Go make a ton of decisions until you become great!

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Is Your Home Great or Did You Make It Great?

Is Your Home Great or Did You Make It Great?

This morning my wife came into the bathroom where I was getting out of the shower. She had a glowing look on her face. She said, “I really love our house.”


Now I agree with her. We found a house that you usually don’t find in the city of Chicago unless you want to pay twice as much as we paid. We have 40X120 foot lot. The normal in the city is somewhere around 25X120. This allows for an open floor plan where the kitchen opens up to the family room. The kids can run and play and we can huddle around the kitchen island watching and joining in.


But, she didn’t mean specifically that she loved our home. What she meant is that she loved what we have created.


Neither my wife or I are very big on material possessions. Now that doesn’t mean we don’t like nice things and new things. What we love are experiences. We love creating experiences with our kids every day. We have our routines and they certainly can get overwhelmingly exhausting with a 2 and 4 year old, but we try to stay in the big picture and realize the parts are small moments in the grand scheme of things.


The question I ask is what makes you happy?


Things or Experiences?


Take a moment, close your eyes and think about your past. What do you remember? The things you have? Or The experiences you created?


I would bet that you remember the experiences you created more than the things you have. What drives me every day is thinking about the experiences I get to create with my family.


It isn’t our home we bought that is great. It’s the home we create through great experiences that is great. That home is not a specific place, but the camaraderie and relationship we create as husband, wife and with 2 little boys.


This works with your family and your business. What experiences are you creating? You’re in control of what culture you have at home and what culture you have within your business. Create great experiences and create a home for family and employees.

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